SO, when wesley was about three months old, i went online and bought the P.E.G.S. system from family tools. my sister-in-law uses it and it seems to work for her family. of course my lax self put off hanging it up and using it because the manual itself is a bit over whelming and let's face it, who wants to do MORE parenting stuff after you've dealt with children ALL. DAY. LONG. and you finally get them to bed to now read about how to be a parent. not me. but i digress...we finally put this board up in hopes of finally curbing elise's out bursts and tantrums. (she throws more tantrums then my 17month and 4 year old combined.) we assumed that by re-directing her hatred to a peg board telling her what chores to do instead of us it would cause less fighting. hmmm, not so much. now she just yells and gets upset when she gets a negative, or if she doesn't get enough points in the day to get her allowance at the end of the week. i have never dealt or met a child so negative in my whole life. she never thinks she can do anything or get enough points etc. etc. what? i KNOW that we didn't instill that in her. we are constantly telling her that she is smart and that she can do anything if she works hard and practices enough. her response? but that means i'd have to work. yup, and even though she's always complaining about not having any money to buy the things she wants, she'd rather just complain then actually do something about it. yuck. i'm not happy about this. i will not raise a lazy child yet i just don't know how to change her attitude. she's at this point that she will do whatever it is she wants, will not listen to a thing we say and she's basically DRIVING ME CRAZY. i never thought i would get to a point where i wouldn't like my child. but, sadly it's at that point. i'm tired of fighting with her. i'm tired of telling her she's better then she thinks. i need to find a way to change this, quick before she gets older and is found doing drugs while pregnant. sigh. this is going to suck. big time.
***michelle, on the other hand has been fine doing her peg board list. she hardly has thrown many fits and if she gets in trouble, she'll give herself a negative and go stand in the corner the first time telling her to. maybe it's because she sees her sister acting ridiculous. who knows but i pray she stays my angel at least for right now while i deal with her sister.****
